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4.5. Yar Making Ritual (Marriage)
One of the rituals performed among transgender was Yar
Making Ritual. This ritual was similar to a marriage ce-
remony. Marriage is considered as union of two opposite
sex people with socially legitimate sexual relationship.
However, among transgender community Yar Making
Ritual is performed between two people of same sex but
different gender. The concept of yar among transgender
sex workers vary from person to person. One of the re-
spondents (18-year-old sex worker) stated, “Yar wo hota
hay jo zada tar sath rehy or us say sab say zada pyar
keray” (Yar is the person who lives with sex worker and
loves him more than anybody). Another 24 year old-sex
worker said, “Jo hum ko sab say za da pyar keray or
hamari zaroor to ko pora keray wo Yar hota hay” (Yar is
the person who loves us more than anybody and fulfills
our needs) .
Initially yar appears in the life of sex wo rker as client.
Ultimately relations of intimacy, affectation, closeness
brings both the parties (sex worker and client) close to
each other. They start living together and stay with each
other for most of the times. Sex worker community starts
recognizing them as a couple having close relationship.
In this regard one of the respondents a 33 year old-sex
worker said, “Yar to wo hota hay jo har waqat sath ho or
logo ko pata ho” (Yar is th e person most often stays with
the sex worker and people know about their relationship).
Yar starts exercising his authority and control over the
sex worker. He becomes his sole client and never likes to
share his passive partner with any other. He never allows
his to entertain the other clients. He solely bears his ex-
penditures. Than sex worker demands his yar to perform
Yar Making Ritual front of his community. Sometimes
yar agrees to perform ritual and sometimes denies. One
of the respondents a 23 year old-sex worker stated, “Yar
to har koi bana chata hay magar yar banay ka hosla wo
hei kerta hay jo sach a hota hay” (everybody wants to be
a yar but very few of them dare to perform ritual jalsa).
As already discussed all the rituals performed among
transgender sex workers were known as jalsa and con-
trolled by guru. Main purpose of these rituals was just to
arrange for community gathering. Yar Making Rituals
were also controlled by the guru. However, the expendi-
tures were mostly borne by the yar. These expenditures
were directly associated with love and closeness among
the worker and yar . If yar was truly in love with his
partner (commonly known as garria) than he spent more.
One respondent (37 year old guru) said, “jeetna zada yar
pyar kerta ho ga woo otna zada khurcha keray ga” (the
yar who loves more spends more). Another respondent
(42 year old guru) stated, “Yeh yar ki zamadari hoti hay
kay wo hamaray guru ki izat keray or un ko tohfa day”
(this is yar’s responsibility to respect guru and present
him gifts).
Guru used to invite the community member for jalsa.
However, before the invitation he consulted his chela
(disciple of guru, a sex worker) to know about the am ount
of money given by the yar for the ja lsa because lunch or
dinner which is known as valima had to be served to all
invitees. So number of the guests had to be in accordance
with the money available. Yar presented gifts to the guru
and sex worker at the occasion of Yar Making Rituals.
He also presented ladies clothing to the yar for the occa-
sion. Sex worker dressed up like a bride and used cos-
metics also. If garria did not wear ladies dress, at least he
had to put dupata (scarf) on his head. Among sex worker
community all these kind of preparation enhanced the
prestige of sex worker as well as his guru. A 26 year
old-sex worker pointed out, “os din ka maza hei koch or
hota hay jeetna acha jalsa hota hay otna hei hum khoob
tyari kertay hain” (day of jalsa brings a lot of entertain-
ment and our preparation is also linked with it. If the
jalsa is bigger we prepare ourselves better).
The ritual completed after exchange of rings in the
fingers of garria and yar. All the guests cheered, pre-
sented gifts to sex worker and yar. After performing Yar
Making Ritual, garria was treated as wife of yar. While,
in some cases sex workers fall in love with some specific
client and started providing him services free of cost.
Unconditionally and without any ritual they started living
together. Garria bore all the expenditure of his yar and
only demanded love, care and affectation from him. He
always remained prepared for any type of sacrifice for
his yar and in return he demanded faithfulness. He de-
veloped hatred and jealousy when his yar made sexual
relation with other sex worker or when he did not give
attention to him. Once a sex worker tried to kill his yar
because, he was not paying full attention to him. Another
22 year old sex worker said, “agar yar tmara na ho to us
ko kissi or ka bhe nhi hona chay”. (If yar did not belong
to you then he would not h ave relation with the others as
well).
4.6. Guru Making Ritual
Guru was the most important person of sex worker com-
munity. Most of the gurus attained this status on th e basis
of their age, experience as sex worker and their relations
with the community members. All of the gurus in this
community were above 35 year of age and some of them
had primary level education also. Two of them were skil-
led laborers who later switched over as sex workers. Two
of them also had families in their native villages. In itially
they started their carrier as male sex worker but later
shifted their identity as transgender. They had multifac-
eted manifestation of gender identity. On one hand they
were fathers, brothers, and sons, while on the other hand
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